So I Got Deferred from Princeton This Week.

I don’t talk about my personal life on here all that much, but today I want to share something that happened this past week and the big lessons that I’m learning from it.

I’m in the middle of the college application process, and most of you probably don’t know that my dream school is Princeton. This is a dream that developed relatively recently as I researched and visited, and let me tell you – I want to go there so badly. 

So in October, I polished up my application and hit submit. I was told I would find out in mid-December.

Well, the decision came out this week. I was deferred.

For those of you who aren’t familiar with college-speak, that means they aren’t deciding yet, that since I applied with the early round, they’re waiting to decide with the next round in the spring. Basically, I still have no idea what’s going to happen, and I have to wait three more months to find out.

Was I disappointed? Yes, of course. Obviously I had hoped that I would get in and my future would be settled.

But that afternoon, I heard God saying to me – You don’t trust me yet. So I’m going to make you wait a little longer. 

And that brought such a strong sense of peace.

God is giving me another, longer waiting season so that I will learn to lean on Him, to let go of things I can’t control, to trust in His plan. He is making me wait, so that I can learn that it’s all going to be okay, so that I can let go of my own plans for my future, open my fists and give it all to Him, and say, with total honesty – Lord, I trust your will over my own.

He started to teach me this, in a small way, at Nutcracker last weekend (and the timing of this is amazing). I had some fast costume changes, and a few times during the shows I didn’t make it and had to enter late for a dance. The first time this happened, I was so stressed out, but as the weekend went on I felt something shift – and I had peace.

During the final show, I was late once and almost late a second time. And I was okay with it. I knew that in the scheme of things it didn’t matter, that I couldn’t control it. I was at peace, going with the flow and trusting God’s purposes.

I’m normally a huge perfectionist, so this was a major shift in perspective. It could only have been God. And I think He was preparing me, teaching me to trust on a small scale so that when it came to the big stuff, I would be ready.

And so, on Wednesday, when I opened my decision and read “The admissions committee has deferred a decision on your application until the spring”, I could be okay with it.

Waiting is hard. But it is in waiting that we have to cast ourselves onto God the most. It is in waiting that we must rely on Him, because we have nothing else to lean on. It is in waiting that the Christian life becomes most different from the worldly life, in waiting that our faith is tested, in waiting that our faith becomes solid and unshakeable.

I don’t trust God enough yet – I know that. And I know God is calling me to this waiting season for a purpose, to teach me to trust, to strengthen my faith. So in the next few months, I’m going to have to learn. I’m going to have to learn to live my life the best I can, not worrying about what will happen in April. I’m going to have to learn to give my stresses and my worries to my God constantly.

And most of all, I’m going to have to learn to hold my plans for my future with open hands. Because the plans He has for me? They are good.

Better than anything I could ever dream of.

Whether they include Princeton or not.

love, grace


15 thoughts on “So I Got Deferred from Princeton This Week.

  1. Mina says:

    Something similar happened to me last year. After sulking, I began seeing reasons with God, that me not getting in last year was for my good and a greater good.
    Fast forward to this year, God worked things out smoothly for me and I got better scores, getting admitted for my desired course into my choice varsity. The whole process has made me develop an attitude of gratitude even when things don’t go as i want.
    He always has our best interests at heart Grace.


  2. Chelsea R. H. says:

    (I definitely know what you mean about the fast costume changes and getting on late, that may or may not have happened to me once in a ballet :))
    I also know what you mean about not trusting God yet enough and being told to wait, that’s been one of the hardest, and most annoying things, I’ve had to deal with this year, but I have no doubt that it will turn out for the better, I just usually can’t see how.
    I’ll be praying for you, friend 😀


    • graceevalyn says:

      Thank you so much! That means a lot. Waiting is definitely hard…I’ve never really had a major waiting season before, so I guess it’s my turn to experience it. I’m so glad I’m already learning the lessons early rather than late.

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  3. Mina says:

    Something similar happened to me last year too. After all the sulking, I saw things His way, that the wait was for a reason.
    Fast-forward to this year, He made everything work for my good. I got in for the same course i missed out on last year, in the same university. This and many more happenings have taught me to trust and hang on to God.
    He has our best interests at heart Grace.


  4. Madeline J. Rose says:

    God will be with you. He has wonderful plans for you, and it’s just amazing how He works everything out for our good. I think we get caught up in what WE think is best, not realizing that it is GOD who knows what’s best. Hang in there. It’ll be okay. <333


    • graceevalyn says:

      Thank you so much…this is what I’m trying to remind myself every day, that it’s going to be okay. It’s hard because I’m constantly surrounded by people who believe the opposite, to whom college is the be-all, end-all of their life right now. But I hope I can be a light as I’m going through this college process with all my unbelieving friends at school.

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    • graceevalyn says:

      Yes! I definitely needed a reminder that He was in control, and I guess in the long run the lessons I’ll learn from this are worth much more than getting to go to college in one specific place.


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